Help a Friend

Supporting a friend in an unhealthy relationship requires a delicate balance of empathy, understanding, and empowerment. If someone you care about is navigating the challenging terrain of domestic violence, offering meaningful support can make a significant difference.

10 Ways to Help a Friend

  • 1. Listen with Empathy

    Be a good listener, offering a compassionate ear without judgment, creating a safe space for your friend to share their experiences.

  • 2. Believe and Validate

    Show belief in your friend's experiences, validating their feelings and reinforcing that you trust and support them.

  • 3. Non-Judgmental Support

    Provide non-judgmental support, letting your friend know that your concern is for their well-being, not criticism.

  • 4. Respect Choices

    Support their choices, recognizing that decisions regarding the relationship are personal, and empower them to make their own decisions.

  • 5. Avoid Telling Them What to Do

    Refrain from telling them what to do; instead, offer information and resources, allowing them to make informed choices.

  • 6. Assist in Finding Resources

    Help them find resources, including hotlines, shelters, and legal services, to facilitate access to the assistance they may need.

  • 7. Discuss Safety Planning

    Initiate conversations about safety planning, assisting them in developing strategies to navigate their situation safely.

  • 8. Reassure Them of Their Support System

    Remind them they are not alone, reinforcing that you are there for them and that a network of support is available.

  • 9. Affirm Self-Worth

    Emphasize that they don't deserve to be treated poorly and that everyone deserves respect and a healthy relationship.

  • 10. Shift Blame Away

    Make it clear that the abuse is not their fault, and help them recognize they have choices, supporting them in seeking help to leave the relationship safely.