H.U.G.S.

Are you worried about a co-worker, friend or relative who may be in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship?

DO ASK...

Is someone hurting you?
Did someone hurt you?

Are you afraid of your partner?

Has you partner ever hit (kicked, hurt) you?

I have a friend whose partner tries to control everything they do, is this happening to you?

Is there someone from a previous relationship who is making you feel unsafe now?

YOU CAN SAY...

I believe you.

I’m worried about your safety (and the safety of your children).

I care about you, and I know how you can get help. 

I'm sad for you, but these situations get worse without help.

You don't deserve to be hurt; you've done nothing wrong, this is not your fault.

What is happening is wrong.

Only you can decide what is best for you, but you could have a safety plan in case you are in danger.

I can give you a phone number to call for help and advice.

You are not alone.

WHAT NOT TO SAY...

Why don't you just leave?

Why did you return to your partner?

What did you do to provoke your partner?

Why did you wait so long to tell someone?

Don't label them as “battered” or “abused.”

Don't tell them what they must do.

Don't discuss their information with anyone else without their permission.

*Reprinted with permission from Partners Employee Assistance Program

You are NOT alone...

Confidential Phone: 781-784-5056

For more information call: 781-784-5056

IMMEDIATE HELP CALL 911